"Connection- the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship."
I am certified in and use Brainspotting, a powerful, focused therapy approach which works by helping people locate, process, and release sources of emotional and physical pain and trauma where it has been suppressed in the brain.
Partners of Sex Addicts
No single behavior pattern defines sexual addiction. These behaviors, when they have taken control of addicts’ lives and become unmanageable, may include:
Compulsive use of pornography
Indecent phone calls / Internet chats and video
Fetish behavior to the exclusion of other behaviors
Using the task centered approach developed by Patrick Carnes we will develop an individualized treatment plan. Once the compulsive behaviors are managed we will also begin trauma work to include an in depth study of your family of origin to identify where these behaviors originated and how you were shaped to be who you are today.
Narcissist Abuse Recovery
A relationship such as this can make you feel:
Anxious / depressed
Like you’re walking on eggshells
As if you’re the crazy one.
And, you may not have a name for the behaviors that make you feel bad about yourself. Some women tell me, “I just couldn’t put my finger on what it was.” Yet, you know that these types of relationships are painful.
For, they can cause you to:
Feel alone and constantly misunderstood;
Experience almost daily feelings of guilt & self-doubt;
Defend yourself often from blame;
Become confused about your relationship;
Walk on eggshells wondering if what you say will set him off;
Keep hoping things will get better;
Have thoughts about ending the relationship;
Feel resigned or stuck.
Not everyone understands the difficulties of living with someone who is narcissist. I do, and I’ll educate you so you’ll have new and healthier behavioral options in your toolbox. I will teach you the rules by which a narcissist operates so you can disengage from these painful dynamics. Feeling empowered in your life and being yourself is our goal.
When this happens, it can become difficult to:
Easily make decisions;
Distinguish your needs from the needs of others;
Stop placing other people first;
Say, “No” when you really want to;
Set appropriate boundaries without feeling guilty;
Not take on too much responsibility, both physical and emotional.
Women who struggle with codependency tend to be very nice and are kind to others, sometimes to a fault. This can easily draw in those who take advantage of them. Or, they may find themselves in unbalanced relationships. Healing codependency is something I can help you with through therapy.